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Insecure Season 4 Episode 7 – Molly and Molly

What can I say about this episode that probably has not already been said? After all, I am 2 days late on my review.ย  The truth is, I don’t know what’s been said because I didn’t look at what other writers have written.

Missed the last episode? See last week’s review.

The process of writing about this show means a lot to me and I just want to keep my reviews pure. Speak from the heart. With that said, I do not want to talk about racism, even though the conversation helped drive the story of the episode. I’m exhausted from current events; I just don’t. So I won’t.

 

Molly and Andrew’s relationship is developing, but what’s more interesting to me is the relationship dynamics between Molly and herself.

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Insecure Season 4 Episode 6
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Insecure Season 4 Episode 6 – Issa and Issa

Ahhhhh…that’s the feeling I felt while watching the critically acclaimed show, Insecure, in what marks the beginning of the 2nd half of its fourth season. Because it was damn satisfying. Let me tell you why.

Maybe the prior criticisms that were thought to be premature were right – the story was lagging and becoming complacent in its focus on the romantic relationships between Issa, Molly, and their men. That’s why episode 6 does not disappoint.

The writers proved to understand their audience by bringing them some very introspective Issa centered content, and I loved it.

The earlier seasons were building up and beginning to focus on Issa and Molly’s friendship solely but they still involved men and their relationships with them as part of the reason they were drifting apart. But not this time.

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Insecure Season 4 Episode 5
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Insecure Season 4 Episode 5 – Molly and Issa need therapy

After an afternoon at the lake, I’ve taken off my handmade wig and peeled off my lashes. I’m in the perfect frame of mind to relax into a new episode of Insecure. It’s become a ritual now, and this time, while watching with bae, (and forbidden to provide commentary during the show) I knew I was going to love this episode from the first DM slide.

I love DM slides, and I love how the show uses them to push the story forward because ain’t that what happens in real life?

I could hear the black community collectively sighing when Issa was considering sending Nathan that first text. And why? He hasn’t done Issa as “dirty” as hardly any of the other major relationships she’s had. Yes, ghosting is bad. But betrayal and lying are worse. I think it’s safe to text Nathan. I like Nathan for Issa because he helps Issa get out of her head.

For now.

I was confused though. Maybe I missed something but…Nate was in LA the whole time? And even though he’s generally still on my good side, I wouldn’t necessarily trust him with my personal friendships. She ain’t had to tell him all that shit that went down with Molly. That wasn’t his business.

The Block Party was so blackety black, I felt that in my soul

Keli is slowly becoming my favorite of the 4 friends. She’s funny, she’s randy, and she’s not afraid to be proud of lying. I think more people should shamelessly reinvent themselves like she does with every new guy.

I love how the block party incorporates the diversity of Issa’s impeccable and up to the minute music taste. Throughout the show, her musical influence appears to have been consistent. It just feels like her stamp is on everything.

But the fight though. I truly undressed the point that Molly was trying to make, but she kept pushing her.

 

Molly and Issa could benefit from couple’s therapy

“I love her but I just don’t really like her right now.” – Molly

You know, I was listening to Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, Ph.D., a psychologists talk about friendship on her podcast. (It’s only 9 minutes, you should listen below). She talks about 3 major insights that people don’t really think about when it comes to major friendships in their life.

  1. As we get older, friendships take more effort to maintain.ย 
  2. It’s normal for things to shift. As we change, so do our relationships.ย 
  3. When we sense things changing, instead of shifting with it, we often feel that it’s impossible to salvage and we must discard it, but maybe not.ย  Maybe it’s possible to keep our friendships, even when they change.

Or maybe Issa just needs a whole slew of friends. I really didn’t like the way Condola made it seem like Issa had something to do with her and Lawrence breaking up, and gave her that judgemental, light-skinned stare. Issa had nothing to do with it! But we still don’t know the results of that late-night slide DM slide that Law gave Issa. I wonder if the show will circle back around to it.

Of the different attachment styles (look them up, it’ll blow your mind), Issa appears to be an avoider. She has probably benefited from having a friend like Molly who pushes her to actually talk about things that she would probably more than likely avoid forever (like me). But, the toxic and destructive way that Molly approaches problems has just run its course with Issa.

Issa continually “dismissed” Molly’s relationship by making one-off comments about how it wouldn’t last. But Molly has done that to Issa with many areas of her life: her job, her block party, even her relationships. Molly feels ignored, excluded, and betrayed. Issa feels stressed, pressured, and blamed for doing nothing wrong. It’s the perfect storm.

You’re going to be most offended by what you’re the most sensitive about.ย But how do you approach someone about something that’s bothering you without bringing negative energy into their life?

An even better question, how do you allow someone to grow? Here’s more insight on that from a therapist.

How have you dealt with your friendships changing?

 

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Insecure Season 4 Episode 4 - Issa and Molly
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Insecure Season 4 Episode 4 – My Short Review (Only Insiders Will Get It ๐Ÿ˜)

ย For the past few weeks I’ve been doing “lightning reviews” of one of the most-watched televisions shows in history by Black people since the Cosby show. In fact, Issa Rae is more important than the Cosby show because Issa Rae is NOW, and is the voice of a variety of our voices in our very non-monolithic Black generation. (Growing up, I watched the Cosby kids wishing I could be like them. I watch Issa because I feel like I AM like her).

I want to do my small part in progenating conversations about this epic show. Usually, I write essays that 4 people read. And in order for me to get faster with posting, I take notes during the show on scenes that I will commentate on before the final credits roll.

Not tonight.

Why?

Because today, I spent 5 hours cleaning my very small room in my parent’s house.

Today, I threw away tons of old stuff representing old thoughts that are clogging my pipeline I’ll be using to siphon off 6 figure blessings as a full-time writer.

And today, I ate a smoothie bowl with a special brownie crumble on top, so…

Today, I’m high.

And if you want a more in-depth (in order) analysis of this episode?

You’re just gonna have to watch.

But take a peek at my Notes. (Only Insiders will get it.)

  1. Perfect Molly.
  2. I WISH A MF WOULD CALL ME OR ANYTHING ABOUT ME BORING!!! ( I can’t believe that Molly just brushed it off? I mean, how are you going to really integrate someone into your life if they don’t even wanna hear about what you do? I mean, since we’re the generation of “eating off of your passion,” I’m sure lawyering is not just a job for Molly…trust me. You’re goingย  to see this come up as a reason for some foolery later. Hopefully with the snack who popped his head in the office…
  3. Issa rapping ๐Ÿฅฐ
  4. wtf is that fine *ss dude at the lawyer’s office?
  5. Black women laughing about “losing a black man” to white women and NOT GIVING A FUCK.
  6. Perfect Molly (coiffing her hair during sex ๐Ÿ˜‰ย )
  7. How spoiled is that child gonna be??
  8. The baby looks Asian or something
  9. WHOA wtf is that joke that the father just made about the baby? #TRIGGERED.
  10. This is the way Amanda’s gonna actually be when she has a child.
  11. KELLI.๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚
  12. NATURAL. ๐Ÿ‘๐ŸพHAIR.๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ CLIP. ๐Ÿ‘๐ŸพINS๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ!
  13. That NOD, YES I WANNA TALK look that Issa does sooooo subtly. ๐Ÿ˜
  14. LOOK AT THAT FAKE ASS BABY AMANDA IS HOLDING! (for a few split second scenes I swear that was not a real child!)
  15. The Issa on the other side of the mirror talkin bout “I got shit goin on over here too!” ๐Ÿ’€
  16. Molly just LOOKS rich. And wealthy.
  17. Mmmmmm. I wanna kiss my main.
  18. But back to Issa and Molly’s convo…damn Molly seems needy. I mean I know she needs her friend right now but she has to take consideration for the pressure that Issa’s under. Looks like she can’t just be NOT effing up SOME relationship with SOMEONE,ย even if it isn’t her man. I guess it’s hard to juggle being vulnerable in two important relationships. On her defense though, I know it’s hard to feel like all you want to do is just talk to your friend, even if you haven’t’ been seeing eye to eye, for weeks now, even months. Hell, sometimes years – only to have them call you to ask you a favor.

It hurts.

What did you think if the last episode of Insecure?

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