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Topfreedom vs. Real Freedom

I woke up this morning with an intense need to discover what it truly means to experience real freedom. It’s the number one right out of all the basic human needs that people have fought and died for, because if you start with that all other needs will fall into place. I wonder why that is?  Right now in my heart body and soul I know exactly why the phrase “Give me liberty or give me death” became so popular, not only was it ironic that a president who would later be involved in the slave trade could say such a thing (and none of the textbooks throughout my day pointed out the irony) but even right now I am feeling restricted on many levels. The more research I do, I find that I have had liberties taken away on such deep and broad levels that I don’t even realize just how easily the neck of freedom can be crushed by the boot of oppression. To be honest, I don’t want to think about it.  The ultimate expression of being human is to express the essence of God in you. To me this is peace, love, and neutrality. Another important concept I associate with my idea of God is omnipotence. God is everywhere at all times, free, like the air, and to me that is a satisfying illustration of freedom. It gives me a sense of understanding about what it truly means to be free. There is the freedom to think for one’s self without being bombarded with media propaganda, the freedom to move about without being confined, the freedom to go anywhere in the world without having to show a document that says that you “belong” only to this or that country. I don’t know if we will ever live on that type of planet Earth, it seems we’ve g one too far away from having personal and collective liberty, and I don’t know what we will have to do to get it back.

For example, as a country, we have agreed to give up certain freedoms because we have been told by the government that it will make us safer. Freedom of privacy is one of the major ones that has been systematically chipped away. Now we have to identify ourselves so that our moves can be tracked, and more technology  is being introduced to the masses over time to streamline that process so that it’s even more efficient at predicting your next move by configuring all of your past ones. It’s a fear mongering technique to tell us that “there’s someone out to get us, so we need your cooperation on identifying every living soul on the planet” and it works, and it has caused us even to support killing others who were just minding their own business because we need to eradicate people who are “jealous of our lifestyle.” Do you see how our need for liberty can be politicized so that people can have their way with us as “citizens?”

If I had to choose a place that comes to mind when I think of freedom it would be California-The Sunshine State. The desert in Arizona might work for me as well. I feel like my time in The Big Apple is winding down. I never cared to much for apples anyway, but I have ALWAYS loved sunshine.

Feeling like I need a life plan, a way out of this madness of putting myself in positions where I must answer to someone, I stumbled upon a self determination assessment by the UIC NRTC Self-Determination Series EXPRESS YOURSELF! ASSESSING SELF-DETERMINATION IN YOUR LIFE, Prepared by Judith A. Cook, PhD, Carol Petersen, MA, and Jessica A. Jonikas, MA. It’s really intended for people with mental illnesses, but I say it’s arguable as to whether we aren’t mentally handicapped ourselves as a country, as a world, considering the ways we have been tricked into believing we are in a free country, a free world. Below is a list of statements that I pondered and realized that so many of them do not apply to me (i.e. “My basic human rights are respected” See my post on the Right to Bare Breasts), and that is simply unacceptable as a woman who is committed to exploring ways of living out my personal liberation (simply put: my dreams.)

How many of you can say yes to ALL of these statements? They only scratch the surface of what it really means to be free on every level of your being; they touch on economic freedom mostly, although some statements explore the freedom to choose who is around you. It’s kinda deep.  If you can honestly say yes to every statement, I will give you a virtual dollar. But the satisfaction in itself should be enough.

 

_____I decide whether to live alone or with someone else.

_____I control who can and can’t come into my home.

_____I can choose where I live.

_____I choose my own friends.

_____I decide whether or not to have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

_____I have people in my life who respect my values and choices.

_____I decide how to be part of my community.

_____If I want to go somewhere, transportation isn’t a problem.

_____I’m able to stand up for myself to get what I need.

_____I can deal with abuse, whether it’s verbal, sexual or physical.

_____My basic human rights are respected.

_____I’m free to choose the kinds of goals I want to pursue.

_____I’m able to choose my medical doctor.

_____I freely choose what kinds of medical treatment I get.

_____I decide how involved I want to be in my medical treatment.

_____I have the money I need to live the kind of life I want.

_____I have the final say over how I spend my money.

_____I’m able to control my finances in a way that enhances my life.

_____I feel responsible for my financial future.

_____I decide whether or not to work.

_____I choose what kind of work I do.

_____I choose where I work.

_____I know how to deal with prejudice and discrimination.

_____I’m able to avoid people who show prejudice toward me.

_____I have people in my life who accept me for me.

 

So, according to this list tell me, are you really free?

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11 thoughts on “Topfreedom vs. Real Freedom

  1. The way you eagerly snatch at every straw of support for your topfreedom idea creates in my mind the image of someone drowning and in a desperate struggle in the sea of confusion. You dread the word “control”, going by your claim that those who gain nothing from being controlled are the most adamant in defending the status quo. But you did not tell us what you have gained or stand to gain by being out of control. Tell me, do you control what you eat and drink? Why, if control was such a bad idea? Without the control provided by the government through the instrumentality of the law and enforcement agencies, there would be anarchy with its dire consequences. How would you like muggers, burglars, kidnappers, terrorists, paedophiles, rapists etc. to unleash themselves on the defenseless public, including yourself? Whenever the oceans go out of control and exceed their bounds, there is chaos.Imagine an aircraft, ship, truck, or train that loses control… what horrendous disaster! That is why it is difficult not to think of people who want to let themselves loose as agents of destruction, if not the devil. It is disheartening to think that in an age when some are winning laurels for the black race by inventing the latest computers etc., someone would have us believe that the best thing to happen to the black woman is for her to imbibe the culture of a common whore – nudity! Believe me, a woman who throws off her top in the public square does not cut the picture of a potentially good wife. She might at best win the lust , never love of a few men who will use and dump her after they have seen it all. Whatever is treasured is kept in the treasure and not in the public where it may be abused. it is exposed only when appropriate and in the right context. A woman who claims to treasure her body and thinks the best way to show is to expose it everywhere cannot be taken seriously by serious minded people. A word is enough for the wise.

    • So basically, you disapprove. Very original. Thank you for your comment! (I’m tired of defending my stance, because there’s really no need to, besides, too many new blogs to write!)

  2. If you are ‘one ball of contradiction’, then you are one contradiction too many because the world is filled with very many contradictions already. Not welcome at all! Whoever is ill prepared for the hazards of their endeavour shouldn’t undertake it. They deserve no followership because they are only out on a self serving mission. When Christ was tried he stood alone as all His disciples deserted and denied Him. In your own case you need the presence of photographers and other sympathisers before you can take a firm stand for what you believe in amidst your claim to divinity! How hollow and shallow!! You don’t know of any school on that. That simply begs the question as I don’t know of any school on breast exhibition either. What naked shame! People who do not care how their actions affect or hurt others belong to the class of the criminal and insane. They belong in the gaol and mental asylum. Very poor marriage risk indeed. ‘The man in her life’ and ‘the men in my life’ don’t mean the same thing. If a woman has men in her life, it means she is simply servicing them and doesn’t belong to any of them. One word is enough to describe that woman….sl*t! Those men will support her in anything as long as their physical gratification is assured. Of course it is since they pay for it. A woman who is serious about getting married some day won’t allow such mess in her life. You are a citizen of a country generally credited with the highest form of liberty and social security but rather than appreciate this, you are fighting an imaginary enemy like a mentally ill fellow, desecrating the land and assaulting people’s eyes about with your bare breasts. Whoever seeks freedom from liberty is asking for bondage. You ask me to get with the times yet you seek to throw yourself back to the days of our great great great great grandmothers when clothing wasn’t invented. You are really a bundle of contradictions. Did you say you were raped when you weren’t topfree? So an encore is your fantasy…eh?

    • Lying here reading your words while I lay in bed with an illness, I actually felt a little sicker. When I read your words and picture you, I see horns, I see evil manifest. But, all hope is not lost, because just like this blog is written by a woman on a quest for Love, I realize we all are. Maybe some of us will never get there during this life. But, you won’t stop me. Instead of responding line by line like before, instead of blocking you or reporting your comment which suggests that: Because I have contradictory views I don’t deserve to live, I’m insane, mentally ill, etc., and most shockingly that I fantasize about being raped a second time because I go topfree every once in a while, I will say this: you probably need more love than anyone else on this thread. I really can’t let it get to me. I’m sure who ever you were serving in the spirit of that attack is very proud of you, but it wasn’t Love. Why don’t you use your gift of expressing yourself to lift someone up instead of tearing them down? Go to another blog where you agree with what they’re doing and encourage them? Why waste your time here unless you revel in such evil things as suggesting that a woman actually WANT to be raped? The God you and I serve is NOT the same, honey.

      There is just one more question I pose to you which NO ONE has been able to answer: how is viewing breasts in their natural form harmful to the viewer?

      When you respond to me, you will answer that question. You will no longer attack me and other women around the world by suggesting such deplorable ideas that because they choose to go topfree or any other “free” that they wish to be raped. How dare you. I hope you don’t have daughters. I hope you are not in a position to make any decision about any one’s life except your own. Judging by what I’ve read, you seem like the one who is criminally insane.

      Don’t follow my rules and you’ll be blocked.

      • Get well soon, lady and sorry if my comments aggravated your illness. It is just that when I feel strongly about something, I also try to express my views on it in strong terms. I know this blog has provision for support and attack on issues discussed in it but as things stand now, it is obvious that only the supports can be tolerated. I think that is unfortunate. When, as a thespian, a woman acts a role that includes some nude scenes, people may not view her as doing anything obscene because she is acting a script. But to do the same thing in real life and expect people to applaud and blow her kisses may be a remote expectation. I think this is your dilemma. Public nudity is controversial any day and I think to launch the quest for love(which you seem to have personified in your writing by initial capitalization) on a springboard of controversy is, to me, a detrimental move. I am tempted to agree with you that the God you and I serve are not the same. The God I serve says a man who lusts after a woman has committed adultery with her in his heart but yours permits you to excite that lust by going nude in public. The God I serve punished Sodom and Gomorrah for the sin of homosexuality but yours accepts it and sees nothing wrong with it. The God I serve says His word(the Bible) abides forever but yours allows His to change with your fancy. The God I serve is my maker but the one you serve is your making. So I agree we are not serving the same God. You picture me as having horns. Why don’t you include tail and hooves? It might make you sound more like ‘Love’. The threat to block me is not necessary as I was on my own already contemplating a withdrawal from the blog and stop wasting my time as you rightly pointed out, on someone too egocentric to see reason with an opposing and perhaps superior point of view.

  3. For someone who believes in absolute freedom, your hurt reaction anytime someone offers an honest view of your actions, to say the least, is contradictory. You ought to know that whoever chooses to take on the society must pay a very high price but your reactions seem to suggest that you are ill-prepared for that. For instance, you couldn’t run the gauntlet but chickened out the day you ‘almost’ got arrested for public nudity. Your arrest would have been a good opportunity to prove that you truly believe in what you are doing and not just looking for cheap popularity. I am sure you know that it is only in the Western world especially the US that the kind of thing you are promoting is tolerated all in the name of liberty. For a man, the breasts are a highly arousing part of a woman’s body hence most women are doing all they can today to enlarge theirs in order to be more attractive to men. At least that was the confession of a lady past 70 who underwent breast augmentation surgery not very long ago. She said she wanted to be able to attract and date a younger man. I also recall the case of a young married woman who was divorced by her jealous husband for baring her breasts in public as a mark of political protest. Only very few men can stand it. Let me tell you what you may not have realized: baring the breasts in public not only dishonours the woman but also the man in her life. Let me ask you; are you married? If yes, how is your husband taking your breast baring act? Have you raised any child? If yes, would you feel comfortable to have a man expose his genitals before your growing daughter? I have a strong feeling that women who take to breast baring as a lifestyle will have a hell of a time holding a meaningful relationship with a man and may end up as lesbians. Can lesbians procreate naturally as intended by the creator? After all is it not the beauty of nature you are trying to promote? This new age philosophy is not helping you much. It made you reject the Bible, God and Christ. Refering to God as ‘it’ is blasphemous. Honestly, you are a very attractive woman and when such a woman choses to publicly arouse men sexually, some won’t mind doing what they know best: rape the shit out of her some day. BE CAREFUL!

    • For someone who believes in absolute freedom, your hurt reaction anytime someone offers an honest view of your actions, to say the least, is contradictory.

      Yes, I am a big ball of contradiction. This is about personal liberation. I never said I was perfect, I’m human, and I hurt.

      You ought to know that whoever chooses to take on the society must pay a very high price but your reactions seem to suggest that you are ill-prepared for that.

      I AM ill prepared, and you are a keen observer. There is no school for this that I know of. I didn’t take any classes. I’m just picking up little lessons here and there along the way.

      For instance, you couldn’t run the gauntlet but chickened out the day you ‘almost’ got arrested for public nudity. Your arrest would have been a good opportunity to prove that you truly believe in what you are doing and not just looking for cheap popularity.

      Well that was a strategic move. There wasn’t even anyone around to notice take pictures, stick up for me, etc if I would have gotten arrested. It would have been too risky and expensive for where I was at in my life at the time. What would you have done in my situation? Oh, I forgot, you’re NOT. So, don’t judge me…I did what I thought was best. Damn right I was scared. And you know, I could have told you all I was arrested and it would have had the same affect so again I think at the time it was the best move.

      I am sure you know that it is only in the Western world especially the US that the kind of thing you are promoting is tolerated all in the name of liberty.

      I’d have to research that, I don’t know that for sure.

      For a man, the breasts are a highly arousing part of a woman’s body hence most women are doing all they can today to enlarge theirs in order to be more attractive to men. At least that was the confession of a lady past 70 who underwent breast augmentation surgery not very long ago. She said she wanted to be able to attract and date a younger man. I also recall the case of a young married woman who was divorced by her jealous husband for baring her breasts in public as a mark of political protest. Only very few men can stand it. Let me tell you what you may not have realized: baring the breasts in public not only dishonours the woman but also the man in her life.

      I don’t mind having parts of my body that are arousing to men. There is nothing wrong with being arousing to men. All the info about breast augmentation to prove that point is irrelevant–I know breasts can be arousing but that’s not all they are. Try to expand your limited view. How does me baring my breasts dishonour me…to people that matter? You feel dishonoured, I don’t.

      Let me ask you; are you married? If yes, how is your husband taking your breast baring act? Have you raised any child? If yes, would you feel comfortable to have a man expose his genitals before your growing daughter?

      I’m not married but one day I will be. The men in my life support me regardless of whether they agree with it or not. I’ve never raised a child but I want to someday. And BREASTS ARE NOT GENITALS, but let me just say I would like for my children to not have any fear around the human body.

      I have a strong feeling that women who take to breast baring as a lifestyle will have a hell of a time holding a meaningful relationship with a man and may end up as lesbians.

      Are you saying lesbians can’t have meaningful relationships????

      Can lesbians procreate naturally as intended by the creator?

      How do you know what the Creator intended? Did the creator intend for us to be communicating via the internet via computers? THAT certainly isn’t natural. There are many ways to reproduce. Penile vaginal sex isn’t the only one and just because you don’t do it that way doesn’t mean that you are doing anything other than the Creator intended. The Creator is the same always yet gave us a mind to invent and change things. Get with the times.

      After all is it not the beauty of nature you are trying to promote?

      I think I’m doing that quite well.

      This new age philosophy is not helping you much. It made you reject the Bible, God and Christ. Refering to God as ‘it’ is blasphemous.

      I never rejected any of those, I just reject many of the ways I was raised to think about them.

      Honestly, you are a very attractive woman and when such a woman choses to publicly arouse men sexually, some won’t mind doing what they know best: rape the shit out of her some day. BE CAREFUL!

      Ah, so this is what this is about. Why don’t you tell that to all the women who got raped while they WEREN’T topfree? Oh, you did. I am one of them 😉

  4. The freedom you seek is utopian and does not exist anywhere, not even in heaven where every inhabitant is God’s loyal subject. If I were you I would think about something better to do than promoting abberrant behaviours like baring the tits in public like a drug afflicted and frustrated hooker.

    • What heaven do you speak of? Would God have you judging other’s behaviors as abberrant? Would he have you shaming the very body created by it? Would God approve of your condescending tone towards me? Just who is God?

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